Quadruplets: Do you have your hands full?
I always find it funny that when I tell people that I have quadruplets, the first thing they
say is “You must have your hands full”. I smile and laugh and say, “Why yes I do!”
But I was thinking recently, what does that phrase really mean? What does “You must have your hands full when raising quadruplets” really mean?
Well, it depends upon the stage that you are with your quadruplets.
For example, take Susan’s story.
Susan (name change to protect identities) was a new mom of quadruplet girls. She had infertility issues so she and her husband had turned to IVF to have a baby, but the 3 eggs took and then one egg split so Susan ended up with quadruplets.
She was so excited to have children, but so very overwhelmed at the prospect of taking care of four tiny babies.
Susan felt that her days were filled with utter chaos and confusion. There was crying baby A, crying baby B, crying baby C and crying baby D . . .and sometimes even crying Mommy number 1, herself!
There were certainly diapers galore (30,000 the first year alone). And don’t forget bottles, bottles everywhere.
Burp rags hanging from every possible piece of furniture so there was always one handy.
And a breast pump running what seemed like non-stop.
And the laundry, laundry and more laundry would not stop. She would not sleep for the first 6 months and there wasn’t much sleep for dad either.
And then there was the keeping track of who has been feed, diapered, given medicine played with and rocked.
And on top of it all, there was keeping the identical twins straight. Susan often worried about mixing them up.
If there ever was a “Calgon ~ Take Me Away” moment, it was Susan’s life with quadruplets that first year.
This story reminds me of this time in my girl’s life. It was the best time in the world.
Of course I can say that because my girls are beyond the infant stage.
But I remember it well . . .with both a mixture of fondness and gladness that it is over. I kind of miss those days when my girls could completely fit into my hands.
But when you are going though the fun and insanity . . .there seems to be no end in sight.
You long for the babies to be able to hold their own bottle, sit up, crawl and
become more independent. Anything to make it easier to do all the tasks that are required
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So how do you survive and thrive during these very hands-full kinds of day?
Here are some suggestions:
1. Get and keep the babies on a schedule. Most multiple births require the babies
to be in the NICU for some time before coming home. And the babies are on a feeding/wake schedule while in the NICU to help them grow and thrive. This becomes more important at home just to keep up with feeding and caring for them.
2. Have meals prepared for you or have meals made and frozen for easy cooking. When taking care of many newborns, there is no time to cook nutrition meals for the adults so plan ahead. This is especially important if you are breast feeding.
3. Create systems to keep track of the feeding and diaper habits of the babies. This is important so you can tell the pedestrian if there are any feeding issues. I had two of my babies that writing down and keeping track of how much they ate, when they ate and how many dirty diapers they had, helped to find two very serious health problems.
4. Find ways to keep track of all the babies’ habits. I color coded everything. This especially was helpful when I did have volunteer over. I could say take pink baby, give pink bottle, wrap pink blanket around pink baby, ect. This also helped because I three different types of formula for the four babies.
5. Smile, smile smile. There is nothing like a smile and a laugh to get you though the
rough, long nights when no one is sleeping. Take a little time to smile, laugh and enjoy the ride.
I have been where you are. I want to share my insights and lessons learned with other moms of multiples and maybe be able to easy the stress of those first years.
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To Your Abundant Life with Multiples,